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Tell More Stories

A very effective way to convey your message persuasively is to tell a story that offers a solution in action.

As we lead by example, we continue to demonstrate the principles we espouse.

By showing before we tell, we add credibility to our words.

When we listen, we understand the issues and outcomes important to those with whom we speak.

Now that we’ve demonstrated our principles, made ourselves credible, and understand the issues and outcomes, we can talk about our ideas.

It is very easy to jump to facts, figures, and studies to make the case for what we believe. Reason, logic, and philosophical principles are what likely grabbed our attention, but they are not particularly persuasive to those who are not yet on the same page in their thinking. So, how can we reach them?

Tell The Story

A very effective way to convey your message persuasively is to tell a story that offers a solution in action.

Telling stories helps connect the listener to details, important points, and outcomes that are not found in citing statistics and studies.

Think about the last time you went to an event where there was an in-depth Powerpoint presentation with lots of slides, filled with statistics, facts, and figures. You likely took copious notes to keep up with every last shred of data.

When you left the presentation, how much did you retain without those notes? And six months later? A year later? A decade later?

Very few adults are blessed with an eidetic memory, like Sheldon Cooper on The Big Bang Theory, so recalling these details does not come naturally.

What’s something we all remember?

What We Remember

The stories we learned at a young age. Fables from Aesop, movies by Disney, and silly rhyming books by Dr. Seuss. Why do we remember, sometimes in amazing detail, something we heard, read, or watched twenty, thirty, forty or more years ago?

When did you last read or hear the story, “The Tortoise and the Hare,” one of Aesop’s fables?

If asked for a synopsis, we could easily give an accurate retelling of how the hare was beyond confident in his abilities to defeat the tortoise in a foot race. He was so confident that he sped off to an early lead and took a nap. When he awoke and hopped to the finish line, he found that the tortoise had beaten him by staying the course.

The lesson that we can all recite in unison? “Slow and steady wins the race.”

It’s probably been twenty years or more since I’ve heard that fable, but I remember what occurred due to the structure of the plot, characters, climax, and resolution involved in storytelling.

Twenty years ago, I would likely have been sitting in Chemistry class, but I don’t know that I could tell you what Avogadro’s number is or why it’s important, despite its repeated use.

If you’re interested in the science behind why storytelling is effective, here is an article about how stories activate our brains.

So, how many stories are you going to have in your repertoire?

Do What You Say You’ll Do

Carl Jung is quoted as saying, “You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.”

What you do, or don’t do, is the foundation of your reputation to others. We’ve all heard that someone’s reputation precedes them, and a reputation can often tell others more about you than any words you may communicate. Shouldn’t you be a shining example for who and what we are?

Credibility

When we can’t live up to doing what we say we will do, we lose our credibility. It’s like putting a question mark at the end of every promise we make and every position we take. Would you really want to take a chance on losing that trust? We have many other things to overcome without having to rebuild credibility.

So, how can we make sure we live up to our reputation?

Reputation

First, don’t take on too much. Often, we see a void and we step up to fill it. As a former leader in the service industry, I realize that we often over promise and under deliver, but if we flip that, we can make sure we meet our commitments by setting reasonable expectations and wowing with our results. Switch to an “underpromise, overdeliver” approach and see the results of keeping things under control.

Next, honestly evaluate the level of effort or time necessary to do a good job meeting the commitments you make. Something may seem to be quick or easy on the surface, but it can really bite you when it’s more complex than you first thought. Being honest about what it will take, along with not taking on too much will help you to do what you say you’ll do.

Explain, Don’t Excuse

Finally, when you can’t make things happen on the timeline you’ve set, make sure you offer explanations, not excuses. Excuses are flimsy, and the real reason is often the better route, especially if it’s humbling.

Are you ready to do what you way you’ll do?

Underpromise and Overdeliver

You have two options in business: 1. Overpromise and hope not to underdeliver.
2. Underpromise and hope to overdeliver

In a recent post on LinkedIn, I posited that the easiest way to improve your life at work is to “underpromise and overdeliver.” I expanded on the thought a bit there and thought that I should offer something a bit more in-depth.

Imagine that you decide to dine at a local restaurant. They don’t take reservations, rather they offer a hosting station with a young lady or gentlemen, who seats guests as tables become available. It is a busy time for the restaurant, and there are no tables available, but they are taking names and party sizes from guests willing to wait to be seated. We’ve all been in this situation. You offer your name and how many are in your party. They take down that information, possibly offer you a pager or to text you when your table is available and give you an estimate of how long the wait for your party will be.

The host or hostess knows how many parties are in front of you and how long their average table takes to be turned, and he or she has two real options with this estimate:

  1. Overpromise and hope not to underdeliver
  2. Underpromise and hope to overdeliver

Overpromise and underdeliver results

With Option 1, this person, knowing that it should take 20 minutes for you to be seated, tells you that it should “only be 10–15 minutes.” They would do this in hopes that you will only be mildly inconvenienced by the delay and won’t seek another place to dine. They hope that despite the numerous parties ahead of you and the pace of their diners and staff that it will actually only be 10–15 minutes to have a menu in front of you at the table. So, what happens here?

After your perception of 15 minutes, you become bothered over how long it has taken to be seated. You may even inquire again about the length of the wait or weigh other options with the other members of your party. There’s actually a Seinfeld episode (Season 2, Episode 11 — The Chinese Restaurant), where Jerry, Elaine, and George play out the frustration of being the party being told Option 1. They are pretty upset about it disturbing their plans and end up leaving hungry, upset at the situation at the restaurant. Even if you don’t leave out of frustration, your dining experience is already soured by the extended wait before you even look at a menu.

When you overpromise and underdeliver, you make an adversary with your customer, before they even try your product. This is a very difficult situation to revive to make a great experience, because your service is starting from behind.

Underpromise and Overdeliver Results

With Option 2, the host or hostess, knowing that it should take their team 20 minutes to turn that table, tells you that it should be “25–30 minutes” for you to be seated. They know the speed of their colleagues and the average diner, along with the number of people ahead of you on the list, but they also realize that things can happen to delay your meal. They hope that the estimate isn’t enough to drive you away and to another establishment, while also setting an expectation that’s realistic and then some. What happens with Option 2?

They call, buzz, or text you 19 minutes after your name was added to their list, and you are delighted that it didn’t take the 30 minutes they stated, and you’re eating earlier than expected. This is a win for you, because you feel like they went above and beyond to serve you, and it is a win for them, because they have set the stage for a great experience. Who doesn’t love a win-win?

When you underpromise and overdeliver, you set an expectation that is lower than your ability to account for a surprise delay or issue. If everything goes to plan, you will wow them with how you exceeded their expectations, never mind that you were the one who set them.

While this example is pretty basic, the application to your work is easily applied. You can set work deadlines or features that are easy for your team to meet with your customers, vendors, or colleagues and then wow them when you finish early or have a higher quality than you said you would. Isn’t that something that would make your work life easier, as you rid yourself of the conflict from Option 1?

You can also apply the underpromise and overdeliver principle in your non-work life by setting expectations and wowing your children, partner, or friends by exceeding them in your commitments to them.

How Millenials Will Save Your Business

I have led millennials in the workplace, and that experience makes me optimistic about how they will save your business… If you adapt it to becoming a more sustainable endeavor.

It’s 2019.

Three years ago, millennials became the largest generation in the American workforce, making up more than 35% of American workers. While you may see “hit pieces” on millennials, poking fun at them with stories about avocado toastlaziness and mooching, and participation trophies, these stereotypes don’t live up to my observations of the millennial generation.

The list of products, businesses, and industries millennials are “killing” grows with each writer and blogger’s need to put words to page. Any businessperson worth their salt will recognize that some of these killed items are simply the inevitable outcome of creative destruction, an economic idea that industries change for the better by destroying the old to bring about the new. It’s why we no longer have buggy whip makers in an age of automobiles.

I’m not a millennial, writing to defend my generation here. Even by the most generous timeline, I miss being one by about two weeks. I have, however, led millennials in the workplace, and that experience makes me optimistic about how they will save your business… If you adapt it to becoming a more sustainable endeavor.

Millennials take over as dominant generation

As millennials overtook Baby Boomers as the dominant generation at work, a Gallup poll found that only 34% of American workers are engaged at work. That means that nearly seven of the ten sitting just outside your office are likely not. This disengaged workforce certainly isn’t helping productivity, though there is hope, and it rests on the shoulders of our largest segment of the workforce, the millennial generation.

Luckily, I’m not alone in seeing the high-quality attributes of this cohort. Millennials excel when working as part of a team. They use the latest technology and adapt to innovations with ease. Most importantly, they want their efforts to have meaning and purpose. They value their work with as much or more importance as their family, when thinking about their dream. To not tap into this passion is a big mistake.

After decades of management practices focused on reports, endless meetings, and performance reviews, we find ourselves unable to tap that potential in this generation. They feel ground into dust by the aforementioned interactions with their boss. Their desire for meaning and purpose in their work requires that we move away from the WHAT that we do to focus on the WHY that motivates us to do it. If you’ve read Simon Sinek’s “Start With Why,” you already have a head start on understanding how to lead your team, especially the youngest players on it.

Vision, Mission, and Purpose

By sharing, exemplifying, and leading the mission and purpose of the work, you motivate them to buy into the vision of your team, rather than seeing it as a quick stop on their journey to their ultimate career. Their buy-in leads to a stronger affective commitment to the organization. Couple that commitment with their blended work and social spheres and the skills they bring with them, and you can build a company swimming with talented millennials onboard for the long term. Their desire for the work they do to have meaning is met when you cast the vision of your mission.

Luckily, this desire for purpose goes beyond the workplace into purchase decisions. In addition to having your team unified behind your mission, you will also have an edge when marketing your brand to the millennial generation. Not only that, the rock star millennials on your team will also be your greatest evangelists. This is key to a demographic who doubts the advertisements they view and hear, preferring the recommendation of someone within their network.

So, when do we start outlining your mission and communicating that to your team?